Melissa Crandall
Nonfiction, Memoir, Fabulist Fiction & Poetry
Healing Takes Time
Five days ago was the two-year anniversary of my mother’s death.
I didn’t think of it. Not once that day, or in the days that followed. Not until I was out in the yard this afternoon, watering plants, did it occur to me that the anniversary had passed without recognition.
I think that’s a good thing.
I believe it shows that I have no regrets; that Mom and I did the work together we were meant to do–the healing we were meant to do.
I sometimes wish certain things had gone differently, but not to the degree that they keep me up at night or induce tears as they once did. Mom forgave me my foibles, and I forgave her in turn. It all worked out in the end.
Thanks, Mom.
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Oh, for anyone who’s interested: Virginia Dare Crandall Hersey Limbacher fought a valiant battle with Alzheimer’s during the last few years of her life. I invite anyone involved in a similar journey to check out my other blog: The Wild Ride – Caretaking Mom Through Alzheimer’s. Sometimes it helps to know you’re not alone.
Melissa Crandall 
Yes Melissa, I remember when that happened with my Dad….when the anniversary of his death passed without me thinking of it until a few days later….and I remember feeling a similar way about that. Thank you for sharing that….I think it will help a lot of people. A story….One day, about 2 years after my father died, MP(my son, who was then about 2 1/2) came running down the stairs in the morning. He was breathless and said, “Mommy…get out the white candles.” I said, “Why?” He said, “Well…grandpa says its his birthday.” And…guess what…it was!!!! And I had not thought of it at all….. So… I got out the candles, made a cake, and we sang Happy Birthday!
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